Does every family expect almost immediate action like mine did? Doubt it. I didn't know it was uncomfortable for others when I asked for monthly hangout times. When I discovered this through much effort, I stopped asking people for that kind of commitment. Sure, sometimes I confront other people with their contradiction and extreme behavior.
So, ok. I'm confrontational. So what.
Is there a perfect way to tell someone s/he is acting a turd? I'd rather say it clear and communicate it even if people respond poorly. No, this doesn't mean I'm "cruisin' for a bruisin'" or whatever other dismissive statement encapsulates kind firm clarity. I am upfront, confident, and above all connected with my sense of disconnection.
Someone suggested that I could benefit from a class on interpersonal effectiveness, and perhaps this is true. I'm also kind of tired of learning so much about how to get along with other people. It's been a long time in sessions to talk about anger and discontent and all of that shit. I've opened myself to group work and allowed for different ideas, and I get it. People won't match up to my standards. Even I will let myself down because I cannot please every aspect of my freakin' mind. Almost nothing is guaranteed, nearly everything is ambiguous. Got it. Great. What now.