In favor of a continuous balance, these days I strive to walk an ambiguous line between darker, restrictive thoughts and healthier, lighter frames of reference. Hence this blog, the artwork, and a general development of what I might have once called softer skills. The truth is, I don't like the way I feel when I focus on suicide, cutting myself, or trying to escape my life. The dissociation that used to be so frequent, it feels uncomfortable now. Those teens and early 20s, you know. All wild and carefree, limitless with belief and dreams and risky behavior. I didn't think about knowing red flags for abuse. Life was tumultuous to live and also fun beyond imagination. Bringing those earlier selves into harmony with current day... as I go to work, as I interact with my boss and other coworkers and other people in life in situations that can feel demeaning... it's a lot of effort. Getting older right now is all about finding ways to express myself and doing so in ways that harmonize with my environment. Boundaries and feeling safe are a real skill, and learning how to practice with such skills takes time. A lifetime, probably.
There is a special kind of peace that happens when we accept ourselves and our moments. We are not smaller or less than anyone, and no one is smaller or less than us. We are able to find ways to help our mind and body exist comfortably with our spirit. I really enjoy great art and adventurous life choices. On that note, I read an amazing comic by Yumi Sakugawa, The Moon in the Mountains. It really captures how I feel in the world sometimes, most times, under the surface. It's online at http://therumpus.net/2013/02/saturday-rumpus-comic-the-moon-between-the-mountains/, but seriously if you can read a hard copy it's so satisfying to hold in the hands. Love that part about climbing out the window and into the universe around us. Also read this interview with Cheryl Cohen Greene, a sex surrogate, at http://www.sadiemagazine.com/issue-no-12/centerfold/cheryl-does-it. It's really far out to me how she shows other people how to masturbate and practice other intimate acts. I wonder if she experienced sexual abuse as a child, too, and now shows others how to handle sex with respect and kindness.