Full-time jobs are a certain kind of skill. I maintained my first full-time job for about six months, then didn't work the following six months. It got so friggin' boring that I decided to get another job. I didn't have kids or bills to pay. The guy who paid for bills during that six months of no-job eventually became my husband for a couple of years. We shared laughs and bike rides, and then our relationship got boring, too.
Boredom is important. It tells us something. We need to feel comfortable with it as much as we do humiliation and fear. It may associate with anxiety in the body, tightness in the chest. There's a saying about idle hands and the devil's work -- that's an outlook that leads to anxiety associated with boredom. Boredom isn't a bad or a good thing. It's an emotion with a hint at how we could help ourselves. What we decide to do with boredom can guide us to ocean waves.
Along the way, we may fall and hurt our bodies and identities. Maybe we don't have good tools for the risk or adventure and we make mistakes or someone takes advantage of us. Or a friend decides s/he isn't a friend and doesn't say it out loud. That's painful. It's possible that we have a solid stack and others intend to maim and we aren't yet aware of that kind of evil. These things can happen and it's scary and feels awful. Fortunate for us, our brains are able to change throughout our lives. We're able to learn how to breathe through anxiety and when. We utilize skills that support and nurture us and in turn create solace with our humiliation and fear. Slowly, through triggers and chaos, boredom and risk, we connect with our deepest value.
Well hello there.