Anguish and offense can be uncomfortable emotions, and they can act as guideposts.
Earlier this month, I felt very offended after Seashell's lesson appeared to reinforce rather than teach about racism. Two people with whom I discussed the topic suggested that anger decide a solution, a la abrupt end to conversations or try to get her fired. (Very quick to divide!) I decided to speak with someone else, someone who practices communication as connection.
To my surprise, she didn't have a ready suggestion. She did point out how some people don't view their biases as biases, that perhaps this teacher is unaware of particular viewpoints. So, I scheduled a lunch and decided to tell Seashell about my feeling of offense. I started out with, "When you taught about that topic, I felt offended," and then went into, "I'd like for us to find a different way to teach about racism."
I'd like it if Blue Sky had given me the same respect as I gave to Seashell, and I realize each of us does what we can in each moment.
Well hello there.