People sometimes tell me that idea about "stay silent if you can't think of something good to say," and I think that saying is relevant only a portion of the time. It happens that we need to say things even if they're not necessarily good in people's perceptions. Right speech is a Buddhist concept, one that encourages the thinker to think and say that which leads to peace. It's a good goal that's impossible to practice at all times. "The word 'Right' is not a moral judgment to be contrasted with bad or wrong, but means 'leading to happiness for oneself and others,'" explains Beth Roth at tricycle.com. In a recent newsletter, Lynne Namka spoke of right speech toward the self. She encouraged readers to identify negative self-labels, such as stupid, stubborn, or hot-tempered; group them into categories; and then explore each label's origin and circumstance. I found her exercise useful, so it follows this paragraph. Expression is important, and we're responsible for how or whether we emote in the world. Sometimes anger or sadness is necessary and appropriate to present even when it's not considered a good thing by all parties. Good is all about context.
It's weird to experience something with someone and then act as if it never happened. I do this when I see certain people and think about others. Our pasts can be filled with all kinds of situations. In each moment, we choose how much attention we'll give to certain events or ideas, and it can feel crazy to be alive sometimes.
Well hello there.