Love forgives all is not a free pass to act like a dickhead. The concept that love allows all actions is dangerous, and the dynamic saturates modern entertainment media.
I watch a series, and the last show I watched idolized a romance that doesn't respect boundaries. I felt like I wanted to vomit when I saw the ick scene. I like the acting, and the writing is often witty. It delivers creativity. It's named Deadbeat.
In the last episode I watched (please note: I'm about to tell the end of the recent season), a man keeps a woman's finger so she won't be able to leave him. He deceives her for a few episodes and then tells her the truth in a finale. She forgives him, nay -- practically *thanks* this guy for acting deceitful toward her. In a matter of seconds, she says it's all for love and so, therefore, everything is forgiven.
Horse.shit. What a terrible lesson with which to end the season. There are consequences for certain types of behavior. When a man or a woman treats you in a way that is not right, you feel angry. You don't say, "Oh, it's ok. You can do whatever you want to me because you said you love me." You choose how to utilize your anger. My vote is to use it toward a resolution that's respectful of all parties.
"Love accepts all with discernment."
Maybe that respectful resolution looks different in different situations. Perhaps at work, looking away from a leader is enough to resolve a situation. Maybe at the grocery store, talking with the service desk is respectful. Maybe raising your voice at someone is respectful in some cases. Maybe you talk about the raised voices later, when parties are calmer. Maybe the compassionate action is not saying thank you. Maybe it's saying goodbye.
Yes, it's entertainment media (and it's just for laughs!) Yes, each of us is responsible for our viewing choices (and just don't watch it!) No, it's not the fault of any particular person or entity, and there isn't anyone to blame (so shut up already!)
I believe each of us and the media have a responsibility to portray respectful relationships. This means respectful of ourselves and others. Honesty, justice, and compassion comprise love. Love accepts all with discernment.
Subtle messages like the one in Deadbeat's finale surround the collective mentality in which I reside. Part of me wonders if these messages are associated with a current trend to fend off the word feminist, as if it's an obscene idea or a four-letter word.
I enjoy this show, so I'll likely keep watching it. It's challenging to find consistent sharp humor in current shows. My vote is for the writers to incorporate respectful resolution into their creativity.
Well hello there.