The most challenging part of work right now is staying focused on a common goal when frustration and anger appear. We come from all walks of life, and our values vary. How do we attain a goal when it seems like people in a work group are most interested in distraction?
I read some of Irvin D. Yalom's The Theory and Practice of Group Psychotherapy. In chapter 11, he discusses how to address a situation in which a patient leaves the group. He writes, "The ejection of a group member stirs up deep, archaic levels of anxiety associated with ejection or abandonment by the primal group" (1995, p. 318). His words lead me to consider whether group work uncertainty, pscyhotherapy-related or otherwise, draws out the primal in each of us. In our schools, workplaces, and community centers, are we likely to feel threatened when uncertainty or confusion emotes?
Which leads me to my next question. If group members feel threatened by uncertainty or confusion, how does one successfully lead a group through confusing and uncertain territory?
My grandmothers on both sides would likely tell me to trust in God. While I don't call myself by a particular religious adjective, I understand the sentiment. In my view, God represents love and faith in purpose. I think the answer in this situation is to focus on love and faith in purpose.
In terms of work situations that flare with negativity, I see the solution as this: Breathe deeply, remember the purpose of the gathering, and focus on how to reach solutions. It's like an emotion workout!
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