One size does not fit all when it comes to relationship advice. One great therapist may say to watch out for rebound relationships, and another great therapist may present a different kind of analysis. The therapist might say, Do you practice with discernment when you date? or are you looking for sex with almost anything that breathes? Except probably the therapist would say that last bit in a different way. I hope.
My point here is that the healing process takes various shapes for all of us. As long as we're caring for our health, we might take different steps. Some might like being in relationships and so seek out another one lickety-split. Others may wait until every tether to the former is gone before beginning to seek another, a path I kind of doubt ever really manifests. If your story proves me wrong, I welcome the correction.
My best friend left. I've been trying to make sense of our sudden end, and it's so painful I can only think about it so much. I see these men on first dates, and it doesn't go past the first date. They're too awkward or they don't meet my standards in some way. Part of me considers that it might be too early for me to date again, and I've decided to give it one more try. If this one doesn't pan out, I plan to take a breather for a while and see about dating another time. As trying as the previous relationship might have been, I put all of myself into it. I tried super hard and wanted so much for us to work. We didn't. Maybe one day in the future. Maybe.
Someone I know is going through an uncertain time with her mother. The mom is ill, and it sounds like things are pretty serious. Relationships with our partners. Relationships with our mothers. We are these amazing beings who live in this realm and experience all manner of emotion. Our bonds help us be alive. May we value our connection and our loss. Always.
Well hello there.