The language of irksome
Don't take it personally
Get over it
It is what it is
can so annoy!
Ah, pop psychology. It's very superficial and yet heaps follow its whims. I read something about a lady who writes self-help books related to intuition. This woman is part of a family of more than 20 doctors. She talks about how she needed to set herself apart from them. Now, she's a therapist who writes bestsellers for the American populace. How many of us can actually relate to this person? A family of doctors? Nothing against wealth or the author, but I mean -- the American population is mostly not so wealthy. To take advice from someone so socioeconomically disparate from my situation... it seems somehow icky.
It's not to disparage pop psych, but more to be real about what it is. It's granules of truth limited by quick solutions. You think stuff? Just don't think it. (Let go.) You feel stuff? Just don't feel it. (Don't take it personally.) Done! Healed! But a meaningful life isn't in one book or with one author. You can't take one course or one drug and find lasting inspiration. One phrase does not heal all wounds. In fact, many wounds will never 100 percent fully heal. It's the way of life. It's how we continue through ups, downs, and all arounds.
The apparent lack of healing can actually be a helpful part of life. Our bruises and pains can inform our present choices, guard us against hurt. To live without fear, to decide that nothing will get in our way, that's commendable for a while. A safe life requires fear, though. Sometimes things need to get in our way and assist us with a different choice. Occasionally it may help to take something personally because the experience could guide us to be better people.
I find it beneficial to rephrase pop psych terms. Let it go becomes Release. Don't take it personally is Note that which you take personally. A love language is Personal preference. Mostly, I must make this switch in my head because so many people use the pop psych terms that speaking about each time would be too much effort.
Besides, the pop psych world is typically trying to help even when its words limit. To find a seed of truth with which we can relate, this is the stuff of meaning. Maybe pop psych books lead into other readings and research. Perhaps spiritual awakening retreats bridge into therapy. We are composites of all of our experiences, emotions, and thoughts. May annoyance inspire us toward meaning.
Let go | Release
Reach out | Offer
Don't take it personally | Note that which you take personally
Get over it. Calm down. Move on. Chill | Breathe slowly and deeply
Love language | Personal preference
It is what it is | This is real life
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