We are each an individual in relationship with others, never fully connected yet potentially always seeking connection. This is biology and spiritual principle alike. In the social context, we don't choose what another person does. We have control over only our own mechanisms, thought processes, and actions. Some people rely on luck or chance or the Way or whatever you call it in your head from moment to moment. All we can really do is be responsible for ourselves and do the best we can, though.
If later these actions seem untenable, we must allow that, too. Maybe it's then that we explore ourselves a bit more and create a deeper connection overall with something much larger than ourselves and relationships in general.
Each situation is unique. The bonds of one union do not define another. And living life to its fullest doesn't mean only happiness and joy. Sometimes there is sorrow and pain and complacency. What I'm finding with this recent separation is the fluid mix of these emotions, sometimes multiple times in one hour.
It's kind of difficult to reconcile this with a natural libido and desire to share time with another person. I'm one of these introverts who developed extroversion by necessity. Although at one time I was very extroverted. Hm. Maybe we all experience both at various times in our lives depending on circumstance. Your thoughts?
There are several great articles about why depressed men leave over on storiedmind.com. The articles are written by a man who experienced depression and went through a recovery process with his wife and children.
When someone leaves by choice or otherwise (and it is not our choice), it can feel like devastation to some parts of our existence. We might go through anger and self-doubt and question the other person's commitment during all or part of the relationship. This is natural, especially if the person and the relationship meant a great deal to us.
It's hard to be with someone everyday and then suddenly not be together at all.
The exodus does not mean that the previous relationship was meaningless.
May we know ourselves as important and necessary beings who respect ourselves and others. Our relationships are a part of our lives and not the only part.
Well hello there.