Gosh, it hurts. One of my friends decided to end our friendship. I didn't know I'd offended her, and now she's told me that she doesn't want to know me because I offended her. Let's call her Blue Sky.
Blue Sky and I solidified our bond in a whirlwind. She faced a dilemma, I offered a solution, and she accepted it. Through our friendship together, we shared information about our lives and talked about issues we faced. I considered us good friends. Then one day she emailed me and said I'd offended her in the past and that she didn't want to be hurt anymore. She didn't tell me I'd offended her as the situation(s) happened. She waited, and then she put the offense together into a big ball of "Let's part ways." I'd like it if one day we could talk through this conflict, and I also understand how sometimes things like that don't happen for one reason or another.
This reminds me of a friendship I experienced in sixth and seventh grades. I was in a new school when I met Firewheel. I think she was new, too. We became good friends and spent time together. Firewheel and I created our own encoded language and passed each other notes in its symbols. We both were able to fluently read and write our language to the extent that we screamed at each other via symbols on a whiteboard in front of our language class one day.
I came back from school in seventh grade fully expecting that Firewheel and I would be good friends. Turns out, she befriended the popular crowd during our time apart, and she barely acknowledged me that year. I felt very hurt. We'd made fun of those people together, for G's sake! I went on to develop strong friendships with three or four other females. We got necklaces together. I think I have my piece somewhere. I kept in touch with one of the new friends, Lavender, off and on for 20 years. Then one day Lavender said some things that offended me, and I set her emails to auto-delete. I didn't tell her.
So, I understand anger and cutting out people who say or do things that preface a feeling of offense. It hurts to receive the action, and I've also expressed it with others. Deep breaths to you, Friendship's End.
Well hello there.