My team lead wrote a performance review for me. It's almost a gold standard for gender bias. I plan to tell him I disagree with his assessments and then ask that certain details be removed. No visible anger, no hatred during the confrontation. Deep breaths and a thought focus on I believe in justice, I trust. It'll be a conversation in which I ask him to define "inclusive communication style" and list specific examples for when I did not use it. The specific examples part is key because his language is so vague, a characteristic of gender bias. I'll have my laptop with me for notes, and I'll ask him to repeat himself when necessary. I'll respectfully decline to sign the review. If he scoffs, I will patiently repeat whatever it is that I've said. I'll document what he says, write a formal response, find another job. No smiles necessary even if he smiles at me. I can smile if it feels natural, and I don't have to. No scowls. A relaxed face. As someone put it to me recently, "The time for nice is over." Kind and firm do not have to include nice or warm. Professional does not necessitate self-deprecation no matter what your boss says to you.
The New Subtle Sexism Toward Women in the Workplace: ...implicit biases have an overwhelmingly negative effect on women in traditionally male professions
by Eric Jaffe, Fast Company
"Here the empirical evidence is also overwhelming. Studies have found that women who succeed in male domains (violating incompetence) are disliked, women who promote themselves (violating modesty) are less hirable, women who negotiate for higher pay (violating passivity) are penalized, and women who express anger (violating warmth) are given lower status."
Great article that describes how gender bias makes its way into reviews.
Understanding the Reality of Gender Discrimination in Employment Reviews
"The study mentioned ... reflects the reality that when men are given negative reviews, there is generally a constructive element to be found. Should they be found lacking in certain areas, they are given clear instructions on how to develop their skills to perform better in the future. The feedback provided to women, conversely, was more negative and far less specific. They were notified of areas where they were not performing as desired, but they were not given the tools necessary to improve."
Susan J. Fowler is an engineer who wrote this excellent piece about experiences with gender bias at Uber.
Research: Vague Feedback is Holding Women Back
by Shelley Correll and Caroline Simard, Harvard Business Review
Workplace anger -- who wins?
"A man who gets angry at work may well be admired for it but a woman who shows anger in the workplace is liable to be seen as "out of control" and incompetent, according to a new study..."
...and -- related, in that unconscious bias way:
Why Do Men Get So Angry At Women When They Are (Nicely) Rejected? by Chrissy Stockton
The above article mentions Bye Felipe, an Instagram account. So worth time! Details all kinds of red flags.
Well hello there.